It seems that everyone has a specific role that they must fill in their circle of friends. Sometimes we focus so much on fulfilling the role that we lose sight of our other abilities. But more often then that, we see others falling in love with one aspect of personality. People often don't take the time to see what we are like outside of the social pressures of large groups.
Every individual has multiple things to offer to the world. We all have the potential to be funny, to listen well, to offer advice, or whatever it may be. It is not prudent to limit the capabilities of others. It is very easy for people to become quite settled in doing the same things because that is what becomes expected of them.
What happens when you break from the norm and change your expectations? There can be mixed reactions. Depending on what your role is in the group the change can either be welcome, or it can be disliked. For example, if a relatively quiet individual begins to be more outgoing and talkative, the change is welcomed by most. However, sometimes when someone who is a clown many times tries to branch out and be serious for a moment, many will leave because they are no longer being entertained the same way.
The only way to give everyone the credit they deserve is to make sure that we explore more than one facet of each individual before we make any real judgments. This can take time and effort, but often times the efforts will bring about possibilities that we would have otherwise been unaware of.
Its also very important to keep in mind that people have more needs than they will openly admit most of the time. Part of the limiting process that I am talking about refers to the acts of selfishness that are rampant in our current society. Most people are caught up in solely just trying to please themselves, that they don't take time to reach out to those in need. This is especially noticeable with those who entertain.
Society as a whole could use a little more love of others. A little more sacrifice. And most importantly, a decrease in selfish behaviors which generally have little benefit for anyone in the grand scheme of things.
2 comments:
what needs do you have that you are not openly willing to admit to others?
Wow, I somehow missed that you had commented on this until now.
But in answer to this question, i feel that i never get to really express my deepest personal thoughts. Whenever I have tried to do this in the past I haven't really been able to have a decent conversation about it. Perhaps its cause I am not as articulate about those things. So I have been known to stick to the funny thoughts that I have and also to talk with people about their personal thoughts. That's my inherent role.
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